I am 33 years old and to this date I have yet to have “the talk” with my mother despite the fact I have been married for 11 years with two kids. I don’t know if it slipped her mind or she just hasn’t got around to doing it but for what ever reason I am still waiting. ( Like I am still waiting on my purple biker shorts from the 5th grade that I paid for the material and pattern because she said she could make them, rather than just buying them like I should have done.) I relied on the sex education class for all 5th and 7th graders, and my friends to learn the ins and outs, no pun intended, of sex and the changes that began to happen to my body. For what ever reason we were so excited to grow up and to begin to see the manifestations of it in our bodies.
Well the time has come for me to prepare my children for the changes in their bodies. I have two boys ages 9 and 11 (12 in a month). We had “the talk” with them about a year or so ago. It took much coaching from me to get my husband to sit them down and explain it all. He was so not ready, but it was time and I didn’t want them to find out in the streets like I did; especially since they are boys. I wanted them to get the correct information, not the information Ray Ray or June Bug would tell them they saw through the key hole of their uncles bedroom door. Ever since they were babies I have always used the correct terminology of the male and female anatomy. There were no wee wee’s or pee pee’s around here. They knew that they had a penis, and girls had vagina’s, even though they had no idea what a vagina was. It took many many corrections and conversations of “mommy doesn’t have a vagina penis” . So my husband sat them down while I listened from the back room. He did a good job, very quick and to the point. I thought it best for him to talk to them rather than me. It can already be a very embarrassing conversation. I came out when he was done to see if they had any questions they wanted to ask us. It didn’t quite click to our oldest right away. when he finally understood he looked at my husband with absolute disgust and said ” Daddy, you did that to mommy!!!” We could barely contain ourselves!! When you think about it you grow up with just you and your genitals, then all of a sudden your parents tell you what you will someday do with them…what they do with them. Lol!! It’s sometimes hard for us adults to even think about our parents having sex even though we (hopefully) do it all the time.
Now my son’s are at the age where they are in the beginning stages of puberty. Their pits are zesty to say the least, and my oldest is checking everyday to see if his adam’s apple is visible to anyone other than him. The hormones are kicking in and so is the attitude. (Lord help me to hold out.) Their bodies are starting to change, and girls are becoming noticeable. Before long I will have two more men living in this house…Whew, I belive it is time for a refresher course!!!